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When divorce looms, the thrill is definitely gone

B.B. King was born on a cotton plantation in Mississippi and died a few days ago in his Las Vegas mansion. Heralded worldwide as a master of the blues, he was an innovator who melted intricate jazz-inflected urban blues over the raw stomp of country blues. On his guitar named Lucille, he would lay down needlepoint-fine lines and then make her roar, dazzling audiences wherever he went.

The blues he helped define is the music of the broken heart; the weary who can't stand any more cheating, whether it is their spouse doing the stepping out, or it is the song's protagonist exhausted with his own shortcomings. Twice married and twice divorced, King understood the blues.

A peaceful divorce

When she's asked if she has an amicable divorce, she answers that it is peaceful. But how can the end of what was to be a lifelong relationship, and is sometimes the unraveling of a family; how can that be peaceful, she is asked.

She has an answer for that, too. Peace isn't a natural state of affairs in the world. It is one we have to establish as a goal and then work towards. Writer, comedienne Laura Lifshitz notes that "even in the smoothest of divorces, conflict arises."

Parental alienation: Avoiding it post-divorce

It's clearly normal and natural for children to mature and evolve and become adults. As adults, they make their own decisions in life, and begin families of their own. This separation of parents and children is a healthy development, and is a sign of emotional growth among offspring. However, there is a different kind of child-parent separation that can happen much earlier, and is often a byproduct of divorce: parental alienation.

This is when a parent engages in hurtful behavior -- often in an attempt to punish their ex-spouse -- that denies their child access to the ex-spouse. It can also occur when one divorced parent constantly speaks badly in front of their child of the other parent. Parental alienation is something virtually no parent wants and consciously seeks, but it can happen when divorcing parents pay too much attention to their own anger and hurt and too little to what is in the best interests of their child.

Fatal Facebook flaw

Everyone knows that Las Vegas is one of the best places in the world to come to in order to have fun. Everyone should also know that the last thing you want to do if you are having marital problems is to post a photo on Facebook of you and your girlfriend or boyfriend enjoying a night on the town here.

Your spouse will see it. And more important, your spouse's family law attorney will see it. And even more important, your spouse's family law attorney will use it against you in court when important decisions are being made about child custody and child support.

Words of incaution

She said he's living in Nevada to try and dodge taxes. He accused her of stealing his dog. However, the accusations have stopped flying now that the divorce of Pamela Anderson and poker player Rick Saloman has been finalized. Media reports say Anderson received $1 million in a settlement and that afterwards, the former couple issued a carefully worded statement apologizing for, and retracting the harsh words and accusations exchanged during their acrimonious split.

Forbes noted that tax accusations aren't uncommon in contentious break-ups, and that finger-pointing in high-asset divorces can sometimes be a "reason the IRS may be able to sniff out wrongdoing from divorcing couples."

Protecting you, protecting your child

Clark County has a family law self-help website which dispenses some basic, very useful information. It tells you about child support information classes, and it tells you the maximum and minimum amounts of child support a divorcing parent can expect to receive in Nevada.

Perhaps the best information from Clark County can be found in its website disclaimer: "Some rights cannot be adequately protected without the assistance of an attorney. You should consult with an attorney before you file any document."

What are the chances that your divorce will go to trial?

If you and your spouse agree in the issues in which major disagreements are most likely to break out in a divorce -- child custody, spousal support and division of substantial assets -- then your chances of going to trial are very low. And even if you disagree in one of those areas, but you have an experienced family law attorney, it is most likely that a favorable settlement -- one that both sides can live with -- will be negotiated and agreed upon.

After all, only about five percent of divorces end up going to trial. What makes those few divorces different than all the rest? It depends on the couple, of course, but there are a couple of notable factors that occur fairly frequently in the cases that go to trial.

Part II: Signs therapists use to predict divorce

As promised in our previous post, we have returned to take another look at personality traits and relationship styles that can prove toxic to couples who are pondering marriage or who have already taken the plunge. The poisons can become visible to trained eyes. Marriage counselors and pre-marriage therapists can often spot the signs that a relationship is headed toward divorce even before wedding music has played and rings are exchanged.

Let's look in this post at a few more relationship styles that pop up red flags for counselors and therapists who work with couples.

Part I: Signs therapists use to predict divorce

You're pretty sure about your choice of spouse, but you want to be completely sure. You've got a few problems to work out, and the weeks before the wedding seems like the perfect time to talk things over. Those are some of the reasons couples go hand-in-hand to see pre-marital counselors.

They want to be sure and they want to be happy as the big day approaches. Those counselors, on the other hand, have an entirely different perspective. Some of the couples have serious relationship problems that need more than a few weeks of therapeutic work to fix. Other couples look like two collision-bound trains headed in slow motion first toward the altar and then toward a divorce. Let's take a glance at some of the signs therapists see in mismatched couples.

He's punching back

Floyd Mayweather is a polarizing figure in the violent world of boxing. He has been accused by five women on seven occasions of physical assaults. Mayweather has pleaded guilty to a domestic violence charge and served two months in jail. Despite his history of violence against women, it's his history of violence against men that has made him wealthy and famous.

As he gets ready to fight Manny Pacquiao on May 2 here in Las Vegas -- in what is being billed as the highest-grossing boxing match in history -- Mayweather is hitting back against allegations that he's physically abusive of women.