With back-to-school sales in full swing, many divorced parents are thinking about how they'll share the parenting responsibilities of homework, extracurricular activities and dealing with their kids' teachers and coaches as well as who will have the kids during vacations.
If you and your co-parent have a well-drafted parenting plan, this can make such things easier. Be sure to review it, though, to ensure that it still works as your kids go into higher grades and take on new activities or start a new school.
Following are a few areas where you and your co-parent should be in agreement to prevent conflict and confusion once fall comes around:
-- School work: Parents should be on the same page in their expectations for their kids' academic performance, but your involvement in homework and school projects can be divided many ways. Mom might be the math and science wiz, while Dad loves English and history, so you can each focus on those subjects. It may work best if you each help a particular child. The important thing is that a child's performance doesn't suffer because you're busy fighting over who will help them.
-- Extracurricular activities: This involves arranging drop-offs and pick-ups from practice, but also attendance at games, performances, fundraisers and awards ceremonies. At least one of you should always there for your child.
-- Parent-teacher meetings: If the two of you attend these together without blaming each other for your kids' problems, it's likely best to divide them up by child or take turns. Teachers generally appreciate seeing divorced parents presenting an amicable, united front for their child.
-- Stepparents: If you and/or your ex has a new spouse, determine how much involvement you want them to have in your kids' school and extracurricular activities. You might not feel comfortable sitting next to your husband's new bride at a soccer game, but is it important to your child? That's what matters. Stepparents can be a big help in taking some of the parenting burdens off of you if you are willing to accept that you're now part of a blended family.
If you want or need to revise your parenting plan, your Nevada family law attorney can work with you to help ensure that it meets your child's and your family's changing needs.
Source: Huffington Post, "Co-Parenting Tips Before School Starts," Diane L. Danois, J.D., accessed July 21, 2017